Words of wisdom for 2017
Empathy and compassion are complex emotions which some would argue are emotions that people with autism struggle with at times. Our values and opinions are formed by our experience and our upbringing and the values instilled in us from our parents as well as our social interactions. As a parent of someone with autism, I worry that the media and social media has now become a very powerful influence on shaping Alex’s opinions – perhaps that is true with many young adults on the spectrum.
So I asked Alex his thoughts on a few things thinking I would get a different perspective given his unique and often unconventional way of perceiving things. I thought the responses were worthy of posting and sharing – perhaps some words of wisdom as we head into 2017.
How does it make you feel when you hear someone making fun of someone with a disability?
“A bit angry because they are not very smart to do that. They don’t understand that everyone has a layer – underneath we are all the same. We are just all wearing different coats and that’s okay. I have a big puffy coat that keeps me warm but sometimes I take it off on the bus because I get too hot.”
What can we do to make people better understand what it is like for people with disability or what it’s like to have autism?
“Just let them know it’s okay. I was at swimming one day at the YMCA and there was a kid screaming in the change room. I told him to stop and be quiet – he was really bugging me. His friend came over and told me he couldn’t help it because he had autism. I told him I had autism too but I didn’t yell and scream like that. His friend said he couldn’t control his voice like me and that I was lucky. I saw him later on in the pool and he was laughing and smiling so I introduced myself to him. I told him I had autism too. When I finished my swim that day I saw him outside with his mom getting in the car. I went over and said hi and told his mom that I had autism too. She just smiled. I told her he looked like he had a lot of potential. She said I was an angel. That was strange because angels have wings and I don’t have wings. My dad explained what she meant.”
What was your favourite memory of 2016?
“There are lots of memories. I did like going to the drive-in with you. Next time I want to stay for both movies. I am also glad Zoe is home. I sure did miss her. Christmas was good but I sure do hope Nanny gets better.”
What are your thoughts on 2017 – a new year?
“Well I have a list of things I need to do. I am not sure. I know I will keep being the best person I can possibly be. I think that all people should do that. I hope I get to go to Fan Expo again. I really like going there. Mom, are we done now? I don’t want to answer any more questions – can I go now?”
Yes – thanks Alex. Happy New Year!